The act of marriage is a joyous act, the legal and formal union between a man and a woman, the publicizing of their love and devotion towards one another. It all sounds so perfect and hopeful until one day when you find yourself wondering if you have made the right decision or not? How does one know for sure they have picked their perfect life partner? Are their signs to look for?
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Having and maintaining a healthy relationship is not easy, it is something that takes time and effort. Educating yourself is key , having all the right tools and seeking guidance is important in establishing a longterm meaningful relationship. This article will give you some very important information and signs to look for and help you take a good look at your relationship:
I effed up my first marriage, I’ll admit it. I’ve been married twice. When my first husband and I were first married, I thought he was the perfect man for me. We were SO in love, SO passionate. I was so caught up in how good it all felt that I didn’t realize until the marriage was over that I had never really been committed to the relationship, I had never thought about it as a long-term thing. I look back on how self-absorbed I got, how obsessed I was with competing in triathlons and realize that we had drifted apart way before our relationship ended. The truth is, once the novelty of how amazing we were together wore off, there really wasn’t anything left. We were just too different. There were dead giveaways early on that, had I been paying closer attention, I would have known that we never should have gotten married to begin with.
Don’t get me wrong – I LOVE my husband and family now. I really do. And I’ve noticed a sharp difference in this marriage. We are both working towards a shared future. There’s a WE and and US that we’re building. It’s not just about the toe-curling passion or late nights lost in each other. It’s about what we’re building for tomorrow, and years to come.
When my first marriage dissolved into nothingness, I had to ask myself some really hard questions about what my role in that relationship was all about. I realized I was the one who messed it up. That’s a hard pill to swallow, but I did. Looking back, there were signs all along the way that we shouldn’t be together, but the depth of the emotion we shared blinded me to all that.