There is a long-standing notion in our culture that women should never approach a man. It’s been said that making the first move makes us seem aggressive, unfeminine or desperate, and that it turns men off. Although everyone has their individual courtship preferences, these ideas are not as prevalent as women often assume. Here’s what men really think about women making the first move.
It Shows Confidence
Most men like confident women. When you take the initiative, the most likely outcome is that he’ll be turned on by your bold move. Even if he’s not into you, the worst that will happen is that he’ll say no. However, that doesn’t mean that one of his hot friends won’t find you interesting.
It Makes Your Interest Obvious
Just like women can have secret crushes, so can men. If there’s a guy you’ve had your eye on, he might be into you, but is too shy to approach you. In cases like this, it’s in both of your best interest if you make the first move. There’s also the possibility that a guy might not have viewed you as a potential date, but after you make your feelings known, that could change. It always pays to be honest.
It Makes Him Feel Attractive
Everybody likes to feel attractive. It can be flattering to have an attractive man approach you, so why shouldn’t it work the same way for him? When you make the first move, you’re letting him know that you find him to be desirable, which directly appeals to his masculinity.
You Have Healthy Self-Esteem
It’s often said that if you don’t like yourself, nobody else will like you. This can apply to dating as well. Men tend to be more attracted to women with a healthy self-esteem. The fact that you think enough of yourself to risk rejection by putting yourself out there can be a real turn-on to a man.
You Don’t Play Games
The majority of men don’t like women who want to play mind games. By approaching him first, you immediately let him know you’re not that kind of girl. You’re direct and you know what you want. You’re not interested in beating around the bush to get and keep his attention.
